Ask the Girl Next Door.

Navigation: Main page

Author: Beland, Nicole

I've been having pretty conservative sex with a new girl I'm dating. How can I tell if she'll ever loosen up?

Take a peek in her bedside drawer. That's where most sexually open women keep their vibrator(s) and other fun stuff. One glance should give you an idea of what she's into. If there's nothing in there but a box of tissues, that doesn't necessarily mean she's squeaky clean. Why not try letting loose a little dirty talk next time you two are naked? Tell her a certain feline part of her body is beautiful and see if she responds positively or gets embarrassed. You could also point out a few sexy movies as you browse the video-rental aisles (some naughty faves: Secretary, The Dreamers, Y Tu Mamá Tambiién). Any woman who loves Secretary is bound to be up for fun.

How can I tell if a woman is flirting because she likes me or because she's had a few drinks?

Why not make like a 10th-grader and send someone else to find out? If you have a friend in common, ask that person to do a little reconnaissance work on your behalf. If you just met her at a bar, spread the word to your pal or hers as you sneak away to the bathroom. She'll see right through it, but it doesn't matter--women find it adorable when guys are shy. And if it turns out she isn't interested, at least you won't have to experience rejection firsthand.

My wife says she doesn't want anything for Christmas. Is she serious?

Of course not. What she means is that she isn't going to give you any ideas. Think up something great on your own and score major credit. Skip all things practical and go for pure entertainment or high end pampering: tickets to a play or concert you have to dress up for, a gift certificate for a massage. (Put the certificate in a box and wrap it.) If she prefers the latest thing--purple is in--she'd probably melt for a 24-inch chain (silver or gold, depending on what she wears most) with a teardrop-shaped amethyst pendant.

My girlfriend is going to Vegas for a girls' weekend. Should I worry?

Don't sweat it, Jim. Your girlfriend will put on a very short dress, go to a dark club, and get drunk. But she won't cheat on you. Girls are funny that way. When we're in a group, we're far more interested in each other's company than in that of men. And we're insanely protective. If, in a cosmo-induced haze, your girlfriend were to let a strange guy get too close, her friends would flock around her within seconds. (Oh, and she might take in a male strip review, but they're about as erotic as an episode of Reno 911!)

PHOTO (COLOR): This is just the warmup.

PHOTO (COLOR): Your lady won't get lucky.

PHOTO (COLOR): "Here's to you, Tim. Tom. Whatever."

~~~~~~~~

By Nicole Beland