Ask the Girl Next Door.

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Author: Beland, Nicole

Is there a way to ask out a hot girl at church without her thinking I'm the guy who goes to church to pick up women?

What's so bad about a man looking for a date at church? It's a lot sweeter than scoping out chicks at a bar--and smarter, too, since you'll already have something significant in common. Just confess that you're embarrassed about asking a girl out at church, but the prospect of getting to know her is worth the humiliation. That approach is honest and humble, two characteristics that are bound to win over a God-fearing girl--or, really, any woman.

How important is it to a woman for the man she's having sex with to have a nice body?

When a woman opens her eyes during sex and sees a man's ripped abs in action, it's definitely hot. Seeing a large, doughy mass jiggling in all directions is decidedly not. But neither experience makes or breaks sex for a woman. When it comes to building a woman's arousal and bringing her to orgasm, it's the finesse with which a man kisses and touches, sucks and thrusts that counts. That said, excess flab will definitely detract from a woman's eagerness to rip off a man's clothes, whether she's a stranger in a bar or his wife of 10 years. And during sex, it's like an occasional spritz of water on her sexual fire: It cools it a bit, which is a bummer, but it by no means puts it out.

Where is the sexiest place for a man to have a tattoo?

The sexiest tattoo, in my mind, is the Red Hot Chili Peppers symbol that lead singer Anthony Kiedis has inked on the inside of his right forearm--a thick, boxy asterisk located by his wrist. A tattoo, especially an abstract one, on that part of the arm comes across as introspective and mysterious. It's as if he wants to remind himself of a commitment or ideal on a daily basis, rather than make an announcement to the rest of the world about his strength or character. To me, that's about as sexy as a tattoo can get.

Is there a hookup timeline women secretly adhere to when they start dating a man?

Yes, but it varies, depending on how liberated a girl is and how horny she happens to feel on any given night. In general, if we're interested in pursuing a relationship with a man, the majority of my friends and I almost always avoid sex on the first two dates. (Oral sex included. Even if we're dying to--and would love to have the favor returned--we'll hold back for the sake of not feeling, or appearing, too easy.)

Why? We feel pressure--from society, from Mom, from all the times we've heard the word "slut"--to put a guy through a brief but vigorous evaluation before granting him access to our lacy underthings. Somehow, after the third round of dinner, drinks, and conversation, it feels okay if body parts start slipping into each other. For the record, I'm not saying you should ever expect sex (or even a tongue bath) on date three. I'm just saying you shouldn't be shocked if that's when the action begins.

PHOTO (COLOR): Have mercy.

PHOTO (COLOR): Her sex schedule.

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By Nicole Beland